Intimacy for a Strong Relationship

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One of the most important ingredients of a relationship is constantly growing.  It is actually a collaboration or a common concern of two individuals connected with special feelings.    A relationship should not be static or stagnant nor should go together for the sake of showing to people that the two of you are bonded with the commitment of the covenant you shared.  Two individuals should focus as to how they can maintain a harmonious relationship and maybe strive to achieve the mechanisms of a happy relationship.    They should continually be seeking grander affection with each other even more as they grow old together.  The following steps are to be considered in order for you to have a true intimacy with your special someone.

Make sure to have self-connection.   Start connecting with yourself.  One better way for you to be prepared in intimacy is to have a self-connection with yourself.   Better face your own personal issues in life such as forgiving yourself at times when you don’t spend time for your special someone.  It pays to forgive oneself for the mistakes created may it be accidentally or you allow it to happen.   If we dwell on the past mistakes, it will never bring us good.  It can ruin our health and it will really hold us back to the things we might attain or experience.   Be friend with yourself.  Real intimacy begins once you know yourself well.   Now,  if you have befriended with yourself, make some emotional connection with your special someone.   Appreciating him perhaps or telling to that person how euphoric you are to tell some personal veracities that made your life happier when together.    Relate. Express what you feel to that person and have the open heart to share and fill the happiness with each other.   You decide together that you two are not separate but as one.

Have a feeling shared of equity.   Per definition, intellectual intimacy has something to do with two individuals sharing the same ideas and thoughts.  At times, you may vary in opinions, perspectives and even personal ideologies, perhaps disagreed on certain issues but are able to respect comfortably in your crashing intellect.  With these,   intellectual intimacy takes place.   You are able to convey and come up with the thoughts together.   You can actually determine if you and your partner do have the intellectual intimacy if you always look at the best of your partner, and finding ways to be constructive.  If you have figure out together the reason for having a disagreement and maybe connect both minds and free to talk with amidst varied opinions without a feeling of self-insecurity.  In general, intimacy is a gradual process and it should not be stagnant.   Any form of stagnation can actually kill the relationship of two individuals.   Your relationship can actually be a byproduct of the decision you made whatever you want it to happen. 

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Enjoy each other’s presence.   You may actually create mutual activities that you both enjoy.  At this point in time you don’t discuss issues or concerns but just plainly have fun with each other’s presence.  Going to church together is one way to have to strengthen an intimate relationship.  When you pray together and enjoy each other’s company in the eyes of God, you will realize how it feels good that you have someone each other in your life.  When true spirituality is placed at the top of each relationship, worry changes to joy.   It can also help the weakness to find the strength.  Having an intimacy with your partner in the eyes of your creator can also be rewarding.  There can be a relationship going in and it will also eradicate the reactions.  That two is better than one and how much life become well when the two of you are together.  As they say,  there is synergy about your closeness that magnified the good feelings about having a life.   Another would be, you can actually spend time together on the beach, enjoy the amenities or perhaps stay in the resort even just for a night.   Walk and talk under the moon but make sure you will not discuss concerns in life.  Just be in the moment and enjoy each other’s company.  You can actually open up topics that your partner is of interest.   The best way to be with the person’s heart is to talk about the things where he or she treasures most.  The underlying principle here is that love is something that we should nurture in such a way that both parties are engaging and having fun.  Don’t take each other for granted and do not allow your hectic schedule with the demands of the world buried the opportunities you can spend with.  

Build each other by affirming and appreciating.    True intimacy is what most people in marriage stage wants to have.  The greatest need of human heart is to be affirmed.   However, we are not constantly experienced it from the people we expect it for us to have.   You may appreciate him or her for spending time with you amidst the busy schedule. Appreciate him or her for sending your kid to school.  It is not easy to wake-up every day to prepare everything before kids go to school.  By simply saying how much you appreciated your partner for his effort shown would mean a lot to him or her.   As Carnegie stated in his book,  one of the virtues most neglected in our existence is words of appreciation.  Sometimes a person left the person he was once loved because he or she was not appreciated when they were still together.   Instead of condemning your partner for the unrealistic expectation, try to appreciate and praise instead. Your honest appreciation can change a person’s life and boost someone’s self-confidence. 

In Physics, we learned that in every action,  there is an opposite reaction.   It is also true in our personal relationships.  If we want to have an authentic intimacy then we must find it in our own self.  Resolve issues of yourself and forgive what has been committed in the past.  Just get the main lesson from that experiences and use it in the present life.    Our intimacy with other people will only be the reflection as to how we have a self-intimacy.   No more cloaking of oneself on insecurities and be open for that someone who is willing to have an intimacy with you.   The steps you have read may actually help you to have an intimacy with someone but you should also explore more as to how you can have a rewarding relationship with your special someone.   Ang pag-ibig ay pagsusugal.  Hindi mo alam ang magiging kahihinatnan ang tanging alam mo lang ay ang kasalukuyan pero sa pamamagitan ng iyong pag-alam sa tamang kapamaraanan ng pakikipagrelasyon ay maaari itong mauwi sa tunay na panghabambuhay.        

Reference:  Freed,  Frank, (2007).  8 steps to positive living.   Paranaque, Phils.  Acts 29 Publishing.